Today, my crazy-yelling-lady style of parenting reared its ugly head. I hate that I'm a yeller. My mom was a yeller, and I always hated her yelling at me. I know my own kids feel the same way. It seems, though, that I lose my mind with frustration and just go with what I know.
STOP! No Yelling! (Just shut up.) When we get home, you are SO going to get it, young lady!
G, my
I'm tired of your smart mouth, G!
"Mama, you are a big Smarty Butt!"
She's right, but that's beside the point. This house ain't big enough for two smart asses. And seeing as she is incredibly adorable, I'm afraid I'll have to concede. Either that or get her butt in check!
The Pocket Parent says I should just ignore her. Nowhere in the book, however, says I should yell at her, or threaten a spanking that will never come to fruition. The book goes on to explain that she's just trying to test me. She knows my buttons and enjoys pushing them. I am the parent and the adult so I need to stay calm. FAIL. FAIL. FAIL.
A friend of mine suggested that she actually washes her kids' mouths out with soap. The concentrated liquid kind. She's batting a 100% effective thus far, though. Maybe I should give it a try??
Time outs with G are unbearable. She refuses to stay, goes into hysterics, and the whole process lasts so long I forget why I actually put her there. If I try to spank her, she turns around and tells me that it didn't hurt forcing me to spank her again. I don't like that approach either. God, I wish someone would write a book for the lazy parent. How to Transform Your Child into a Wonderfully Charming Genius in Four Hours. My kind of book. Heck, I can do anything for four hours.
In the meantime, though, how do you stop the kids from getting to best of you? What works at your house? To Soap or Not to Soap? That is the question.
6 comments:
My 4 year old totally has a case of the smart-mouth right now too. I'm so glad to hear it's not just me!
Well, you know my kids are smart asses. They got it from me. It's really out of control around here. I don't know what to do. Duct tape?
PS Have you read SuperNanny's book? She has good advice. Not that I have taken it.
I'm feeling you, sister. I go in the room and lock the door until they are civil. That works. Sometimes.
I also yell a lot.
I've told you before that I'm a yeller too. I yell more than I care to admit. Though now I'm curious about your book and SuperNanny's that Tracie mentioned.
p.s. did you know that you're still a "no-reply" blogger? I tried to respond to your comment on my blog (about the Natracare products), wrote out this whole email to y ou before I realized your blog isn't connected w/ an email address....if you want to know how to fix it, let me know, I can send you a link from when I posted about it before.
ok LB--you are a no reply blogger, which means that when you comment on MY blog, I can't just hit "reply" in my email and reply to you. you don't have an email addy hooked up/linked to your blog. I did a post a while back on this and a few other things. read through it, let me know if you have questions. oh, and if you do have ?s, just email me at:
erin_margolin@yahoo.com
far easier t han going back and forth on your blog in your comments section!
;-)
here's the link to my post:
http://abbyandizzysmom.blogspot.com/2010/01/blog-housekeeping-or-why-noreplycom.html
i would also add an email address in your Profile....just go in there and fiddle with some stuff. sometimes people will want to contact you that way. also, you may find you get more action on your blog once you fix the no reply thing. once you have comments coming via email, you won't have to check back on your blog all the time!
email me if you have any problems!!!
xoxox
My youngest will be four next month. After I talked with a friend about how I hate yelling at my kids, she sent me a christian newsletter/article which is written weekly by a christian school principal. The greatest advice I ever could have received was written in it(and I wish I could say I do it all the time). It advised to talk to your children in almost a wisper, very soft voice when you have to discipline them. I was amazed at how effective it was. The child has to become quieter to hear the parent and ultimately leaves a screamfree interaction. I do find this very effective when it is practiced. I think the title of the article was called, "The Power of a Wisper." I still find myself yelling at the top of my lungs to "stop it" or "that's enough." but, not quite as much. Oh, on your previous post, I think you are miles away from becomming a hoarder. Over half of my friends houses, with and without small children, have 20 times more "stuff" in it than your house. I'm not at all concerned that the next episope of "Hourding, Buried Alive" will be you.
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